Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater – Discussion
Nothing is more heartbreaking than being cheated on. But will you forgive them, or will they do it again, or do they deserve forgiveness? People might argue about context, like B. was drunk, but isn’t that a lame excuse? Well, we wanted to hear what our readers thought, so we asked 100 people, both men and women, if they think a cheater is always a cheater.
71% of people said they believe people who cheat will relapse. That seems like a pretty big number, meaning trust seems to be being damaged. Additionally, we asked if you would forgive your partner for infidelity, and 93% said they couldn’t.
When we asked them if they cheated on themselves, the interesting answer was 18% said they cheated on themselves. So even though they wouldn’t forgive their partner, they have actually been guilty of the same crime in the past.
For those who answered “yes” we asked them what their reasons were and 50% (9 out of 18) said “youth” while 4 out of 18 said alcohol was a major factor.
We then asked respondents if they had been cheated on themselves and unfortunately 41% admitted to being cheated on by their partner which is shockingly close to half. Oh dear Britain, we need more fidelity! Of the 41 who answered “yes” they were asked the age at which it happened and there was a clear split with no one answering between 30 and 40, the numbers were between 20 to 30 and 40 to 50. It seems like fidelity is on the line in the thirties, I’m not sure how much to read into this given the figures but it’s a very interesting point!
One area we looked at was context. It’s so easy to say “once a cheater always a cheater” but how did they end up there? Infidelity is not usually so clear cut. You really need to start examining how they got into the cheating situation and what the contributing factors were. For example:
What was the state of the relationship when it happened?
Was there an active sex life?
Are you a compulsive liar? What was the cause of this?
Did they enter the relationship at the right time and with the right mindset?
What was the work-life balance like?
A sense that “something was missing” in the relationship
Is stress or frustration being channeled in the right direction? Some people may take out their anger on their partner and blame their partner for their unhappiness, even if unconsciously.
Feelings of insecurity or insignificance can actually have the opposite effect and cause someone to become unfaithful.
What is their psychological profile and mental health needs?
These are just some of the factors to consider. None of these are reasonable excuses, but rather interesting insights into the mindset of an adulterer. To determine if they will do it again, you need to fully understand why they did it in the first place and see if that issue has been addressed.
More importantly, can you move on and accept her again? If you hold them against you, the relationship cannot survive. It requires complete and absolute trust in each other, and it eliminates jealousy, but once trust is broken, it’s hard to move past that.
For some people, relationships can recover and become stronger than ever, while in other cases, relationships can fail again and heartbreak all over again. It’s a very difficult topic, which is why it’s so interesting to discuss and research.
When talking to people who have actually been unfaithful, the key is this feeling of “something is missing” that seems to come up again and again. The idea is that something is missing from their lives, and the new person fills it. This is often based on desire, rather than the logic of filling a void in life, because life and relationships can sometimes get boring if you don’t keep things fresh, and bringing in a new person seems to solve that problem.
A relationship can languish temporarily, and the romance falter, until suddenly a possible alternative romance emerges, and something inside is ignited, creating an illusion of perfection outside of the romantic relationship. The “new for the old, old for the new” attitude led them astray.
But I want to hear from you. Have you ever been cheated on? Do you forgive them? Or do you forgive them, but they cheat on you again? Whatever happens, let us know!
DQH Can I use salicylic acid first and then vitamin C?
It’s easy to create a skincare routine, but knowing how to use it is another thing entirely. In most cases, if you’re not getting the desired skin results, it could be due to the layering of conflicting ingredients. So, is it possible that salicylic acid and vitamin C are such ingredients? Or are these active ingredients the duo that’s been missing from your skincare routine? If you want answers, stick around because today we are going to explain the benefits of salicylic acid and vitamin C and how they can be used in your daily life.
What are the benefits of salicylic acid for skin?
Salicylic acid is one of the most commonly used beta hydroxy acids and is favored by many people with oily, acne-prone skin. This acid is derived from willow bark, and unlike its water-soluble relatives (called alpha-hydroxy acids), salicylic acid is oil-soluble, which means it can penetrate deeper into the lower layers of the skin. Once it reaches the lower layers, it can help unclog pores of excess sebum, dirt, bacteria, debris, and impurities. This results in clearer skin tones and greater definition.
Not only does salicylic acid benefit the underlying layers, but the outer surface of the skin benefits as well. When applied to the skin, salicylic acid removes the buildup of dead skin cells. This is accomplished by breaking the bonds that hold dead cells to the surface. Over time, this can cause the complexion to look dull and prone to acne, blackheads, and other blemishes.
If you’d like to learn more about salicylic acid and how it can improve your skin, check out this dedicated blog post from a beauty insider.
What are the benefits of vitamin C for skin?
Vitamin C is considered one of the most powerful antioxidants, which means it is very effective at fighting free radicals and preventing them from causing further skin damage. Examples of free radicals include pollution, central heating, UV rays and harsh climate. They attack proteins, fats and cell membranes as soon as they come into contact with the skin, causing signs of premature aging such as fine lines and wrinkles as well as hyperpigmentation, flaky patches of skin and loss of elasticity.
Many people usually prefer to use vitamin C in their morning routine as this ingredient gives the complexion a radiant glow. You’ll also find that vitamin C can target areas of hyperpigmentation, plumping the skin and reducing the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles.
The thing about vitamin C is that there are a lot of outdated studies going back to the 1950s that describe vitamin C as an unstable skin component. Thanks to improvements in modern technology, this is no longer the case as all products now contain a stable form of vitamin C.
Visit The Beauty Insider to learn more about vitamin C. So please check out our blog post.
Can I use salicylic acid first and then vitamin C?
Yes, you absolutely can. In fact, it’s thought that using salicylic acid before using vitamin C ensures it penetrates faster and works faster.
This is an efficient way to utilize two power sources, and the reason has to do with pH. For example, the skin’s natural pH is about 4.7, making it slightly acidic. Salicylic acid and vitamin C are also both acidic, and you’ll find that vitamin C is absorbed quickly into the skin. Therefore, using salicylic acid beforehand can increase the acidity of the skin and allow vitamin C to penetrate into the skin faster.
While this is considered an effective way to combine two powerful ingredients, you need to be aware of your skin type and how it reacts to certain active ingredients. Even people with perfect, normal skin can experience skin sensitivity and irritation. Therefore, always consult a doctor or dermatologist before using any new products on your skin.
It’s also important to follow skin application rules. In this case, you need to use the product correctly to ensure you get the best results for your skin. If you’re not sure what I mean, the basic rule for skin is to start with the thinnest consistency and work your way up to the thickest consistency. This prevents a barrier from forming on the surface, preventing other active ingredients from penetrating the skin.
Can I use salicylic acid at night and vitamin C in the morning?
Yes, absolutely, this is considered the most effective way to get returns without any adverse side effects. This is because there is enough time between applications to ensure that the skin’s pH levels return to balance.
You’ll also find that Vitamin C is rich in antioxidants and is perfect for use in the morning to ensure your skin is protected and looking its healthiest. Due to the small size of salicylic acid molecules, it is an acid that is able to reach the deepest parts of the skin. While this is effective at keeping skin clear, it also increases the risk of irritation and photosensitivity. Therefore, many people prefer to use powerful BHAs in their evening routine without exposure to UV rays, pollution, or harsh weather.
Warning: If you avoid using sunscreen every day, none of these ingredients will do what your skin needs. The combination of chemical peels and powerful ingredients increases the risk of further damage to the skin’s surface. Use SPF 50 every day to keep your skin protected and your lipid barrier healthy, even on cloudy days, keeping your skin in top condition.
